这是一个让我很感动的故事（可惜无法找到有关的影录，无法听到黄心慧师姐开朗的笑声。。。），因为今天的父母成长班黄心慧师姐的故事，让我深思和醒觉。
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黃心慧 Living life with a positive attitude
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在臺灣，父母喜歡送孩子上補習班，讓他們能學習更多或跟上學校的進度，而英文是其中父母最熱門的項目，卻也是孩子們最害怕的，但在台北有一個與眾不同的英語補習班，老師黃心慧用愛心教導學生，更重要的是，她要孩子們學習掌握自己的人生，以下是今天的人物報導。
這並不是一般在臺灣的英語補習班，在這裡，學生並不會受到體罰，也並沒有言語上的責罵，代替的是老師愛的擁抱與親吻，很多學生從國小時就來到這裡，然後一直讀到高中，那老師是如何跟學生建立如此深的情感？愛的存款，是她的回答。
慈濟志工 黃心慧：「我很多朋友跟我說，現在英文不好是因為國中時不好的學習經驗，那我選擇用引導的方式來教育，我並不會因為以你的成績或行為來評斷你，我還是會一樣的關懷你支持你，同樣的指導你，讓你能變得更好，但你跟學生建立起這樣的關係時，他們會非常認真在課業上突破來回報你給他們的愛，這就是我所謂的建立『愛的存款』，要做到這樣，愛必須是無條件的包容。」
在黃老師的英語補習班，豐盛的晚餐是不收費的。而孩子們需要管教時，黃老師要求他們抄寫慈濟的靜思語，或寫一封「情書」給老師，黃老師認為這樣可以幫助孩子認識自己的情感，心靈也得到沉澱，也因此成長。對黃心慧來說，她的責任不只是教英文而已，還要教導孩子如何掌握自己的人生方向，不要隨波逐流，她總是提醒孩子用笑容面對人生無常，也以身教確實傳達給學生。
慈濟志工 黃心慧：「世界上有三種事，一種是老天爺的事，一種是別人的事，剩下一種是你自己的事，所以你自己要去掌握，如果哭鬧可以讓事情更好，我鼓勵你大哭大鬧，你能哭著過，也能笑著過，你的態度決定了一切，所以為什麼不就快樂面對？」
黃心慧樂天活潑的外表下，看不出她也有種種的情緒與人生的挑戰要面對。黃心慧的老公羅納德是個華裔，畢業於知名的美國普林斯頓大學，年輕時可是出名的運動員，還曾是美式足球校隊的四分衛。
慈濟志工 黃心慧：「他曾經是個肌肉發達、全面型的運動員，每個禮拜都會在校報上看到他的戰績。」
曾經黃心慧以為，自己結婚後可以全心全意當個幸福的家庭主婦，但先生竟然因為腦瘤開刀四次，雖然活了下來，但導致現在的記憶力嚴重受損，一天只能工作三小時，左耳甚至失去聽覺。黃心慧只好挑起家裡經濟的重擔，儘管困難重重，她對先生還有兩個孩子不離不棄，因為她堅守著當時結婚時彼此許下的承諾。
黃心慧的先生 羅納德：「在我經過這樣的手術之後，我似乎失去了對未來人生的希望，有時我不知道我自己是否已完全復原，我是不是殘廢了？是否是個有殘疾之人？我想心慧給了我勇氣，讓我繼續往前邁進，幫助我再成長，讓我可以變得更好。」
於是照顧小孩的工作現在由先生負責，而拼經濟的重擔就交給黃心慧，但沒想到心慧的不幸竟然還沒有結束，她補習班的帳戶竟然遭到同事掏空，存摺裡只剩下一塊錢。
慈濟志工 黃心慧：「我發現的時候，我非常開心的大笑，我想我終於跌到谷底了，這一塊錢代表著復始萬象更新，有多大的成長倍數。」
於時黃心慧再度站起來，重新奔向陽光，在母親的引導下，也加入了慈濟，讓她得到精神上的安慰，把佛教的法與自己樂天的性格結合，心慧繼續把愛與關懷帶給家人，也帶給自己的學生。
In Taiwan, a lot of children attend after school tutorial centers, where they can learn new things, or catch up with their homework. Among the subjects, English is most feared by youngsters. However, there is a very different English tutorial center in Taipei, where the teacher, Huang Xinhui, guides her students with extra love, and helps her children to learn to master their lives. Here is today's People Feature.
< Building up "love credits" with students >
This is not your typical Taiwanese tutorial center. Here, students are not punished physically or verbally. Instead, they are given maternal hugs and kisses by their instructor. Most of the students have been here since elementary school and stay all the way through till high school. What is the teacher's secret for cultivating such a strong bond? "Love credits" is her answer.
Tzu Chi volunteer, Huang Xinhui:
"A lot of my friends say they hate English, mostly because of bad learning experiences back in junior high. I choose the supportive guidance approach instead. I will not judge you because of your grades or conduct. I shall be nurturing and supportive as I help you learn and better yourself. When you build up a strong bond with the students, they will do their best academically to reciprocate. This is what I call building up "Love credits". And to accumulate such credits, the love has to be unconditional and all encompassing."
< Nurturing students with love >
Here at Huang Xinhui's English Academy, dinner is prepared free of charge for the students. When they need to be disciplined, they are asked to copy Tzu Chi's Jing Si Aphorisms or write a "Love Letter" to their teacher. This is Huang Xinhui's way to help her students get in touch with their emotions and spirituality and thus grow more maturely.
< Students master their own lives >
Xinhui hopes to teach more than simply the use of a language to her pupils; most importantly, she wants them to learn how to master their own life, rather than just drifting along. Huang always reminds them to remain positive when dealing with life's impermanence. Huang herself practices what she preaches.
Tzu Chi volunteer, Huang Xinhui:
"There are three types of problems in life. One is left in God's hands. The other is in other people's hands. The last remaining is in your own hands. So you have to take charge. If crying over spilled milk can fix you problem, then by all means, I encourage you to do so. You can either laugh or cry about it. Your attitude determines everything. Why not face it positively?"
< Her life isn't exactly peachy >
Though Xinhui may appear happy and spunky, she has had her own share of obstacles to overcome. Her husband Ronald is a Chinese American. A graduate of the world renowned Princeton University, Ronald was quite a star athlete back in the days. He was even the quarterback for his school's football team.
Tzu Chi volunteer, Huang Xinhui:
"He was quite muscular and athletic. He used to appear in the school newspaper on a weakly basis."
< Husband suffered brain tumors >
Xinhui had hoped she could live happily ever after as a simple housewife after marrying Ronald, however, Ronald developed brain tumors, and underwent four operations. Though he survived, he has suffered severe memory loss. He can only work three hours a day, and cannot hear in his left ear. Xinhui was forced to become the breadwinner of her family. She stood by her husband and their two children, despite the hardship.
Huang Xinhui's husband, Ronald Chen:
"After my surgeries, I started to lose my hope for the future. Sometimes, I get depressed about it. Have I fully recovered? Am I disabled? I think Xinhui gives me the courage to keep going, and keep on growing, and to be a better person."
< Partner embezzled everything >
Thus Ronald now has taken charge of raising their boys, as Xinhui works for their livelihood. However, Xinhui's troubles did not end there; things were made worse when she discovered her business partner embezzling company funds leaving her with a dollar.
Tzu Chi volunteer, Huang Xinhui:
"When I found out, I actually laughed out loud. I had finally hit rock bottom, I thought. So that one remaining dollar signified a brand new start, and endless potential."
< Living optimistically in Tzu Chi >
And thus, Xinhui picked herself up again and continued living her life positively. Under her mother's guidance, she joined Tzu chi which provided her spiritual support. Fusing in the Buddhist Dharma with her optimistic life's outlook, Xinhui continue to bring warmth and love to her family and her students.
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