Tuesday 18 October 2011

智慧

什么是智慧?

聪明 = 智慧 吗?相信很多人都会认为聪明不等于智慧。

A. 根据百度百科:智慧(wisdom,wit):对事物能迅速,灵活,正确地理解和处理的能力。

B. 根据wikipedia: Wisdom is a deep understanding and realization of people, things, events or situations, resulting in the ability to choose or act or inspire to consistently produce the optimum results with a minimum of time, energy or thought. It is the ability to optimally (effectively and efficiently) apply perceptions and knowledge and so produce the desired results.

C. 你的答案是???

(以上答案都不是我心中的答案,你呢?)

谁最有智慧?

A. 年龄:大人,老人,小孩,。。
B. 种族:白人,华人,印度人,马来人,。。
C.国家:美国人,中国人,日本人,法国人,印度人,。。。
D.官位:总统,首相,总警长,。。
E.人数:大部分人
F:工作:老师,会计师,商人,医生,。。。
G:性别:男人,女人,中性人
H:动物:人类,狗,大象,猫头鹰,海龟,海豚,。。。

我的答案:


不管怎样分,都有他的不圆满,除了佛陀,一位正等正觉的觉者,真正了悟的智者;接下来应当是佛的大弟子,证得圣果的佛弟子,。。;这些都是人类的少数;所以少数服从大多数在解释佛法时是不能成立的。

当我们讨论佛法时,我们应当去理解原本 佛 的见解,佛法是不能由多数(还没证悟的人)来定论,尤其是没有真正修行的人,。我们在讨论佛法时,应去了解佛法的真正涵义(尤其是原始的经律论),如果我们还没达到那些智慧,我们应当让那些已经体验,印证佛法的人来领导和教导我们。把我们的智慧带入另一个进阶的领域。另外,要避免去更改原本的涵义,戒律,等。。。

[佛法是要通过体验,印证,再继续传下去;而不是更多的“语文或文字”上的争论;佛法是通过修行,体验四圣帝,八正道,十二因缘和涅盘 等,愿大家都能依自己的因缘,早日体验涅盘。



Friday 14 October 2011

The Hotel New World disaster 新世界酒店坍塌事件 15 March 1986

昨天和一位工程系讲师用餐聊天时,谈到他收集了日本地震核能发电厂影录,播放给学生看,希望他们未来工作时会有良知,会有专业的道德。这位朋友说,学问能从书上学到,但道德需要有人指导

记得不久时观看到这个记录片,立刻向他介绍这部记录片。

不要一时的贪欲,失去了我们的良知,
不要一时的无知,危害别人的生命,
不要一时的疏忽,断送自己和别人的生命。

2011 父母成长班: 黄心慧师姐 Living life with a positive attitude

这是一个让我很感动的故事(可惜无法找到有关的影录,无法听到黄心慧师姐开朗的笑声。。。),因为今天的父母成长班黄心慧师姐的故事,让我深思和醒觉。


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黃心慧 Living life with a positive attitude

http://www.newdaai.tv/?id=46838&view=detail


在臺灣,父母喜歡送孩子上補習班,讓他們能學習更多或跟上學校的進度,而英文是其中父母最熱門的項目,卻也是孩子們最害怕的,但在台北有一個與眾不同的英語補習班,老師黃心慧用愛心教導學生,更重要的是,她要孩子們學習掌握自己的人生,以下是今天的人物報導。

這並不是一般在臺灣的英語補習班,在這裡,學生並不會受到體罰,也並沒有言語上的責罵,代替的是老師愛的擁抱與親吻,很多學生從國小時就來到這裡,然後一直讀到高中,那老師是如何跟學生建立如此深的情感?愛的存款,是她的回答。

慈濟志工 黃心慧:「我很多朋友跟我說,現在英文不好是因為國中時不好的學習經驗,那我選擇用引導的方式來教育,我並不會因為以你的成績或行為來評斷你,我還是會一樣的關懷你支持你,同樣的指導你,讓你能變得更好,但你跟學生建立起這樣的關係時,他們會非常認真在課業上突破來回報你給他們的愛,這就是我所謂的建立『愛的存款』,要做到這樣,愛必須是無條件的包容。」

在黃老師的英語補習班,豐盛的晚餐是不收費的。而孩子們需要管教時,黃老師要求他們抄寫慈濟的靜思語,或寫一封「情書」給老師,黃老師認為這樣可以幫助孩子認識自己的情感,心靈也得到沉澱,也因此成長。對黃心慧來說,她的責任不只是教英文而已,還要教導孩子如何掌握自己的人生方向,不要隨波逐流,她總是提醒孩子用笑容面對人生無常,也以身教確實傳達給學生。

慈濟志工 黃心慧:「世界上有三種事,一種是老天爺的事,一種是別人的事,剩下一種是你自己的事,所以你自己要去掌握,如果哭鬧可以讓事情更好,我鼓勵你大哭大鬧,你能哭著過,也能笑著過,你的態度決定了一切,所以為什麼不就快樂面對?」
黃心慧樂天活潑的外表下,看不出她也有種種的情緒與人生的挑戰要面對。黃心慧的老公羅納德是個華裔,畢業於知名的美國普林斯頓大學,年輕時可是出名的運動員,還曾是美式足球校隊的四分衛。

慈濟志工 黃心慧:「他曾經是個肌肉發達、全面型的運動員,每個禮拜都會在校報上看到他的戰績。」

曾經黃心慧以為,自己結婚後可以全心全意當個幸福的家庭主婦,但先生竟然因為腦瘤開刀四次,雖然活了下來,但導致現在的記憶力嚴重受損,一天只能工作三小時,左耳甚至失去聽覺。黃心慧只好挑起家裡經濟的重擔,儘管困難重重,她對先生還有兩個孩子不離不棄,因為她堅守著當時結婚時彼此許下的承諾。

黃心慧的先生 羅納德:「在我經過這樣的手術之後,我似乎失去了對未來人生的希望,有時我不知道我自己是否已完全復原,我是不是殘廢了?是否是個有殘疾之人?我想心慧給了我勇氣,讓我繼續往前邁進,幫助我再成長,讓我可以變得更好。」

於是照顧小孩的工作現在由先生負責,而拼經濟的重擔就交給黃心慧,但沒想到心慧的不幸竟然還沒有結束,她補習班的帳戶竟然遭到同事掏空,存摺裡只剩下一塊錢。

慈濟志工 黃心慧:「我發現的時候,我非常開心的大笑,我想我終於跌到谷底了,這一塊錢代表著復始萬象更新,有多大的成長倍數。」

於時黃心慧再度站起來,重新奔向陽光,在母親的引導下,也加入了慈濟,讓她得到精神上的安慰,把佛教的法與自己樂天的性格結合,心慧繼續把愛與關懷帶給家人,也帶給自己的學生。




In Taiwan, a lot of children attend after school tutorial centers, where they can learn new things, or catch up with their homework. Among the subjects, English is most feared by youngsters. However, there is a very different English tutorial center in Taipei, where the teacher, Huang Xinhui, guides her students with extra love, and helps her children to learn to master their lives. Here is today's People Feature.

< Building up "love credits" with students >
This is not your typical Taiwanese tutorial center. Here, students are not punished physically or verbally. Instead, they are given maternal hugs and kisses by their instructor. Most of the students have been here since elementary school and stay all the way through till high school. What is the teacher's secret for cultivating such a strong bond? "Love credits" is her answer.

Tzu Chi volunteer, Huang Xinhui:
"A lot of my friends say they hate English, mostly because of bad learning experiences back in junior high. I choose the supportive guidance approach instead. I will not judge you because of your grades or conduct. I shall be nurturing and supportive as I help you learn and better yourself. When you build up a strong bond with the students, they will do their best academically to reciprocate. This is what I call building up "Love credits". And to accumulate such credits, the love has to be unconditional and all encompassing."

< Nurturing students with love >
Here at Huang Xinhui's English Academy, dinner is prepared free of charge for the students. When they need to be disciplined, they are asked to copy Tzu Chi's Jing Si Aphorisms or write a "Love Letter" to their teacher. This is Huang Xinhui's way to help her students get in touch with their emotions and spirituality and thus grow more maturely.

< Students master their own lives >
Xinhui hopes to teach more than simply the use of a language to her pupils; most importantly, she wants them to learn how to master their own life, rather than just drifting along. Huang always reminds them to remain positive when dealing with life's impermanence. Huang herself practices what she preaches.

Tzu Chi volunteer, Huang Xinhui:
"There are three types of problems in life. One is left in God's hands. The other is in other people's hands. The last remaining is in your own hands. So you have to take charge. If crying over spilled milk can fix you problem, then by all means, I encourage you to do so. You can either laugh or cry about it. Your attitude determines everything. Why not face it positively?"

< Her life isn't exactly peachy >
Though Xinhui may appear happy and spunky, she has had her own share of obstacles to overcome. Her husband Ronald is a Chinese American. A graduate of the world renowned Princeton University, Ronald was quite a star athlete back in the days. He was even the quarterback for his school's football team.

Tzu Chi volunteer, Huang Xinhui:
"He was quite muscular and athletic. He used to appear in the school newspaper on a weakly basis."

< Husband suffered brain tumors >
Xinhui had hoped she could live happily ever after as a simple housewife after marrying Ronald, however, Ronald developed brain tumors, and underwent four operations. Though he survived, he has suffered severe memory loss. He can only work three hours a day, and cannot hear in his left ear. Xinhui was forced to become the breadwinner of her family. She stood by her husband and their two children, despite the hardship.

Huang Xinhui's husband, Ronald Chen:
"After my surgeries, I started to lose my hope for the future. Sometimes, I get depressed about it. Have I fully recovered? Am I disabled? I think Xinhui gives me the courage to keep going, and keep on growing, and to be a better person."

< Partner embezzled everything >
Thus Ronald now has taken charge of raising their boys, as Xinhui works for their livelihood. However, Xinhui's troubles did not end there; things were made worse when she discovered her business partner embezzling company funds leaving her with a dollar.

Tzu Chi volunteer, Huang Xinhui:
"When I found out, I actually laughed out loud. I had finally hit rock bottom, I thought. So that one remaining dollar signified a brand new start, and endless potential."

< Living optimistically in Tzu Chi >
And thus, Xinhui picked herself up again and continued living her life positively. Under her mother's guidance, she joined Tzu chi which provided her spiritual support. Fusing in the Buddhist Dharma with her optimistic life's outlook, Xinhui continue to bring warmth and love to her family and her students.




Source from/摘自:
http://www.newdaai.tv/?view=detail&id=73362
http://www.newdaai.tv/?id=46838&view=detail

其他:
http://www.wretch.cc/blog/AngelaLu/24685272

2011 父母成长班: 满分人生:百分之九十和十的定律

百分之九十和十的定律


90/10 Principle of Stephen Covey

What is this principle? 10% of life is made up of what happens to you. 90% of life is decided by how you react. What does this mean? We really have no control over 10% of what happens to us. We cannot stop the car from breaking down. The plane will be late arriving, which throws our whole schedule off. A driver may cut us off in traffic. We have no control over this 10%.

The other 90% is different. You determine the other 90%. How? By your reaction. You cannot control a red light., but you can control your reaction. Don't let people fool you; YOU can control how you react.

Let's take an example. You are eating breakfast with your family. Your daughter knocks over a cup of coffee onto your business shirt. You have no control over what just what happened. What happens when the next will be determined by how you react. You curse. You harshly scold your daughter for knocking the cup over. She breaks down in tears. After scolding her, you turn to your spouse and criticize her for placing the cup too close to the edge of the table. A short verbal battle follows.

You storm upstairs and change your shirt Back downstairs, you find your daughter has been too busy crying to finish breakfast and get ready for school. She misses the bus. Your spouse must leave immediately for work. You rush to the car and drive your daughter to school. Because you are late, you drive 40 miles an hour in a 30 mph speed limit. After a 15-minute delay and throwing $60 traffic fine away, you arrive at school. Your daughter runs into the building without saying goodbye.

After arriving at the office 20 minutes late, you find you forgot your briefcase. Your day has started terrible. As it continues, it seems to get worse and worse. You look forward to coming home, When you arrive home, you find small wedge in your relationship with your spouse and daughter. Why? Because of how you reacted in the morning. Why did you have a bad day? A) Did the coffee cause it? B) Did your daughter cause it? C) Did the policeman cause it? D) Did you cause it? The answer is "D". You had no control over what happened with the coffee. How you reacted in those 5 seconds is what caused your bad day.

Here is what could have and should have happened. Coffee splashes over you. Your daughter is about to cry. You gently say," It's ok honey, you just need, to be more careful next time". Grabbing a towel you rush upstairs. After grabbing a new shirt and your briefcase, you come back down in time to look through the window and see your child getting on the bus. She turns and waves.

You arrive 5 minutes early and cheerfully greet the staff. Your boss comments on how good the day you are having. Notice the difference? Two different scenarios. Both started the same. Both ended different. Why? Because of how you REACTED. You really do not have any control over 10% of what happens. The other 90% was determined by your reaction.

Here are some ways to apply the 90/10 principle.
1。 If someone says something negative about you, don't be a sponge. Let the attack roll off like water on glass. You don't have to let the negative comment affect you! React properly and it will not ruin your day. A wrong reaction could result in losing a friend, being fired, getting stressed out etc.

2。How do you react if someone cuts you off in traffic? Do you lose your temper? Pound on the steering wheel? A friend of mine had the steering wheel fall off Do you curse? Does your blood pressure skyrocket? Do you try and bump them? WHO CARES if you arrive ten seconds later at work ? Why let the cars ruin your drive? Remember the 90/10 principle, and do not worry about it. You are told you lost your job. Why lose sleep and get irritated? It will work out Use your worrying energy and time into finding another job.

3。 The plane is late; it is going to mangle your schedule for the day. Why take out your frustration on the flight attendant? She has no control over what is going on. Use your time to study, get to know the other passenger. Why get stressed out? It will just make things worse. Now you know the 90-10 principle. Apply it and you will be amazed at the results. You will lose nothing if you try it. The 90-10 principle is incredible. Very few know and apply this principle. The result? Millions of people are suffering from undeserved stress, trials, problems and heartache. We all must understand and apply the 90/10 principle.

Source: http://debudeodhar.hubpages.com/hub/9010_Principles_of_Stephen_Covey

2011 父母成长班: 慢養教育

“慢养”最重激发孩子自信

在成长的道路上,家长的态度或许慢一点,孩子会走得更稳。这是“慢养”教育的倡导人、卡内基华文之父黑幼龙对广大家长提出的忠告。

黑幼龙在他的畅销新书《慢养》中,向父母倡导孩子的“慢养”教育。现在,许多父母在教育子女时都忽视了孩子人际关系能力的培养,甚至自身都缺乏与孩子的沟通,导致了亲子感情僵化和疏远,不利于孩子的健康成长。家长、老师应该帮助孩子学会了解自己、认识自己,练习沟通,而不是一味地取得高分。在谈到“慢养”的精髓时,黑幼龙强调,家长要意识到,不是赢在现在,而是赢在将来。“就算小孩进了最好的大学,后来呢?走出校门后别人考量你,依据的是你是否自信,是否喜欢和别人沟通,性格是否开朗。”

黑幼龙认为,激发孩子的自信是最重要的,所谓慢养、慢教育,其实就是通过各种方法,让蕴含在孩子心中的自信慢慢地流淌出来,成为他们面对现实、未来的力量源泉和智慧能量。








Source:
http://baby.sina.com.cn/edu/11/3005/2011-05-30/0642185028.shtml

Wednesday 12 October 2011

电影分享:Remember The Titan

这是部很令我感动的一部戏,关于白人和黑人通过学校足球队促成白人和黑人互相尊敬,融合社区内的白人和黑人,尊重个种族。

今天陪伴孩子一同观赏,让他了解,很多国家都有相同的处境。

也提醒,如果我们了解因果,相信轮回,我们知道我们可能投生做华人,马来人,白人,黑人,。。,或任何六道众生。我们决不要涉入种族纠纷,。。

我的老板(回教徒)也说,做为回教徒,难到只有某某回教徒才能上天堂?天堂是不分种族国际身份的!很多种族纠纷都因一时的气愤,或政客的玩弄造成。。。

让我们时时用慈悲喜舍,面对每一个人,事,处境,问题,。。 
让我们更务实,包容,善解,容忍。。。 面对人生。







2011 快乐亲子成长班:原住民村送爱之旅--我的家


这是一间遮风挡雨的温馨的家。
里面没有电视收音机或任何电器,没有玩具,没有空调,没有风扇。。。
没有灯,没有电,。。。

他只有许许多多的爱。



他不在很远很远的地方,就在繁华的Puchong.

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